It’s Mental Health Awareness Week and I wanted to continue the conversation about MH. It’s been a few months since I talked about it, and to be quite honest, I thought I was doing good. Then my physical health took a turn for the worse, and a few things online triggered me and knocked me back. It was actually a year ago that I first shared my MH story, and you can read it here, if you fancy it.

NB: I am very well aware that suffering from a mental illness and having mental health problems are different. I am also aware that mental illness is a so vast, I can’t speak for them all, or would ever try to. I am just sharing my personal opinion and why I think it’s important to take away the competition between physical and mental health.

Confrontation is still my arch nemesis, the genuine dread it gives me is so overwhelming I begin trembling and usually end up in floods of tears. Some might say I’m too sensitive, and maybe I am but I hate getting into a heated discussion that spirals into something nasty. I try to shut down the conversation if I see that beginning to happen, or ‘kill them with kindness’, but it doesn’t always work. I’ll argue with my brother until I’m blue in the face but random strangers on the internet/people in the street, I’d really rather not. I’m not even sure why I let it affect me so much but it does and I’ve worked really hard at trying to find techniques to avoid or move past it. But this week I’ve been reminded that there’s always someone there to gnaw at my heels.

I guess it just goes to show that no matter how well you’re doing or how much of an improvement you’re making something can come out of nowhere and set you back drastically. And that’s the same with my physical health. I can sleep at an awkward angle and wake up in agony, unable to move for a week. Or stand up, dislocate my ankle and end up in cast (like I was a few months ago).

Here’s the thing though, why isn’t mental health taken as seriously as physical health? It pisses me off on all levels. And what annoys me even more is some people comparing them. Having an illness that impacts you physically is not worse than having one that impacts you mentally, or vice versa. It’s the same with various physical illnesses, there is no worse off, you’re both struggling, you’re both suffering, and suffering is completely subjective. By making this into some kind of warped illness sport it’s invalidating everyone’s experiences, everyone’s pain, everyone’s whatever-they-want-to-call-their-condition.

Similar to the vast amount of physical illnesses, there are great amounts of mental illnesses too. We constantly read/hear about anxiety and depression but rarely many other forms of mental health conditions. And although I’m not knowledgeable regarding every condition (I honestly try my best to learn as much as I can), I am aware that other people are dealing with mental illness outside the anxiety/depression sphere.

I know I talk and write about my physical health more and that’s because it controls every single aspect of my life, and I know people who’s mental illness controls every aspect of theirs, namely my boyfriend. But that doesn’t mean I think one is more vital than the other, it’s just that for me my physical health is constantly bad, my mental health comes in waves. Yet my boyfriend is challenged every single day with his mental health. So, despite me not living with it everyday, I live with it every day, with him.

I also notice a huge correlation with pain flares and low mood. I am definitely at my worst when I’m in agony and unable to leave my bed. And it’s very common for disabled people to suffer with their mental health. For me, I’m isolated, I have no friends (not a woe is me, I don’t know anyone where I live), I rarely go out, and then when I do go out I end up in pain. So, the two go hand in hand.

Still, one isn’t worse than the other, one doesn’t trump the other. One is just less talked about, less cared about by professionals and the government, and has a stigma attached to it. And it’s really not good enough.

Let’s start talking about mental health like we do physical health.

Also, if you’re reading this and need some support, please get in touch with Mind, or drop me a message, I’m always about.


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    I really appreciate this entry. I have schizoaffective disorder which is incredibly disabling and stolen so much of my life, yet so many people refuse to see it as a disability (even though it's registered a disability). Unfortunately a lot of people who even discuss "ending the stigma" of mental health don't appreciate the full implications of it all, they seem to base all mental illness on symptoms of anxiety, which I can understand as it's the one most people have experience with but you can't treat all mental illnesses exactly the same. And just like you said having a physical illness can lead to mental illness, mental illness usually comes with a truckload of physical symptoms.

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    It's so sad that there is still such a stigma attached to mental health issues. The way forward is definitely to educate and I think mental health awareness week is really doing amazing things to change this.

    Amina xx |

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    Thanks. I have friends with various mental illnesses so know it's much wider than just anxiety and depression. I'm just speaking from personal experience and fed up of seeing the two compared, it doesn't help anyone.

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    Sarah, I think this is a very honest and heartfelt post. I have also just seen the feed on Twitter – please, please don't let it get to you. My EDS causes me the most grief, and when I use a stick or my wheelchair people can see it….but it is only the few who know that i am on antidepressants and have really low points, because the others just don't see me then. My hubby had a breakdown a couple of years ago and he had to leave work – most people didn't know what to say or were plain embarrassed. Both my sons have had melt downs recently which has led us as a family to uni counselling, CAMHS, support for self harm, Heads together, drugs etc etc. It has been really tough and continues to have a daily impact….but there is still such a stigma. Please leave this post!! I am pinning, stumbling etc, etc C xxx

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    I never compared anything, and am quite upset you've responded to me like that. I didn't know you didn't like people sharing their own experiences, I was just agreeing with your post so I don't know why you'd be like that. I'm sorry, I won't talk to you again I only responded because I thought you understood.

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    Omg no, I wasn't saying you were comparing, I meant that I keep seeing it on twitter. I should have been more clear. And I do want to hear other people's, that's what it's all about. Sorry for the confusion, I honestly wasn't saying that.

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    Great post – well done for you writing it. It infuriates me, this comparison between physical and mental illness. Both are very valid and very real. I struggle with mental illness every day, I have Borderline Personality Disorder, Generalised Anxiety Disorder, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and Depression. Yet I am often belittled and told I'm being ridiculous for having anxieties or fears or days where I can't get out of bed! I'm glad you've written about this and shared it with the world. xx

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    There’s such a stigma about mental health because people can’t
    identify with it. It’s not tangible. You break a wrist and everyone rushes over
    to sign your cast but you suffer from something in the mind and people rush
    away from you. We accept emotions like grief because we can identify with them
    but those emotions that we cannot identify with we turn away from and scowl
    upon because of pure ignorance.

    This is why I have decided I want to write a book about my
    anxiety journey and the stigma of mental health in general. If anyone has any
    opinions or thoughts that they would like to share with me or ideas of things
    they think need to be included in the book please do not hesitate to email me
    at 🙂 x

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